Last Updated on December 5, 2019
A twenty-year-old woman in a polyamorous relationship with four men–three of whom she lives with–has decided to raise her child with all four men acting as the father.
Tory Ojeda who lives in Jacksonville, Florida, is in an open relationship, despite having four partners.
Three of the four men who are currently in a relationship with Ojeda live with her.
Ojeda, who is currently 7 months pregnant, has expressed her desire to have all four men act as fathers.
She began dating one of the four men, Marc, 18, in high school before she met Travis, 23, two months later.
Three years later, she announced her official engagement to Travis in July, this year.
According to The Mirror, long-term mutual friend Ethan, 22, and Christopher, 22, who is the baby’s father, were soon involved.
Adamantly, she stated: “Chris is the biological father. We just know that because of timing and when the approximate conception date was.
“Based off of the approximate conception day, we had been on vacation. So it was only us.
“But as far as I guess, socially goes, we’re all raising the baby together, so everyone’s dad.
“We’re all very, very excited to be raising a baby together.”
Tory encourages her boyfriends to pursue other relationships.
In an interview to Barcroft TV, she said: “Honestly, I would love it if somebody found a second partner.
“Dividing time and figuring out schedules between all five people and making sure everyone feels included, it’s kind of difficult.
“I’d like to not be the only woman in the relationship. That would definitely be nice.”
Concerning jealousy, Ethan said: “There are a couple of healthy ways to deal with it. Primarily just talking to each other.”
She added: “There’s always going to be like little moments of jealousy, it does take a certain amount of restraint and just getting relaxed. I will say it helps if you know the person.”
Looking back on his experiences in his relationship, he said: “Seeing [Tory] with Ethan was a lot easier because I was friends with him.
“Her and Chris was a bit dicier at first, there was a lot more jealousy and I’ll openly admit that. The same goes for Marc because I’d never interacted with them.”
Later in the interview, the lovebirds openly recognize polyamory as an uncommon practice.
Tory reported negative reactions from members of the public:
“We definitely get weird looks,” she said.
“I’ve had people just say rude comments when we’ve just been hanging out at a fast food place.
“I’ve been called a hoe more than once.
“Maybe in our future, we might see it become a common thing where people don’t bat an eye on it anymore at all. One can hope.”
Tory has also expressed her wish to welcome more members of their growing family.
