A Redditor has asked the internet whether it’s okay to have blown up at his polyamorous parents for “ruining his childhood.”
The post in question came from Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” (AITA) subreddit, described as the place for “catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us,” where users ask the community whether they were the asshole or not in a given situation.
The Redditor, who didn’t give his age, posted that the polyamorous situation with his parents had started since he was around 6 years old. “One day I was outside playing, got hurt and when I ran inside caught my parents making out with some random guy,” he wrote. “They told me they have other adults that they love and it’s a completely normal thing. Me being a child just accepted that.”
After a while, his parents stopped being secretive and began being far more open with their relationship. “I never saw them doing anything explicit again but they would kiss their partners, hug them make flirty comments, something that would be normal between parents but with many more people,” he added, noting that even though his parents knew he hated it, they simply told him it was a normal adult thing.
Now being an adult, his parents informed him that they were going to take part in a documentary about polyamory, and wanted an interview with him to prove it “doesn’t mess kids up.” He broke down and “yelled that the truth is it did f*ck me up and they shouldn’t have had a child if their number one priority was f*cking the whole world.”
Most Redditors in the comments voted “NTA” (Not The Asshole). “NTA, do not back down and allow them to get you to recant, OP,” one wrote. “Notice that they said ‘we’re sorry you feel this way,’ not ‘we’re sorry for doing xyz.’ They gave you a non-apology. For making your childhood basically a wallflower to an orgy, no less.”
“NTA. Really? They would leave complete strangers in the house without them for you to come home to?” one continued. “They made their sex lives front and center and their priority. Any child would resent that.”
Others still tried to defend polyamory in the comments, claiming that “having a committed poly partner who is not a stranger and is known to you” wouldn’t have had the same effect.
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